Holiday plans

I'm starting to make plans for over the Chrismas/New Year break.

So far I have two (2) plans.

#1. Go to Tokyo and hit on blonds.

#2. Go to Tokyo and hit on blonds.

Yeah, that's about all I got right now.

Question: How much does the paleo diet cost per day in Japan (in yen) and can u give me a sample of what u eat daily?

Basically, my "diet" has gone completely out the window in the last month or so. I've been way too busy with study to be bothered to cook/care. I finished my last major assessment for this semester yesterday so I should be back on track now. Yesterday I ate only 2 eggs and a pizza plus beer. Fucking shite.

But as of tomorrow I will probably do something along the lines of;

Dinner; stir-fry:
Vegetables: 1 ピマン150¥, 1Onion50¥, mushrooms 100¥, 1 eggplant 60¥.
1 chicken breast 175¥
sauce; mirin, chilli sauce, chilli oil, seasoning, starch- I dunno the prices for only one meal, they all last for a while.

I'll probably do some exercise before I eat that, then after I finish eating, I'll probably crash pretty soon after. When I wake up I might not be hungry and just skip breakfast. Have a coffee and let it be. If I am hungry I might go for,
*Yogurt- 70¥
Fruit; price depends on what, but around 70-100¥
or
2 boiled eggs 75¥
*Yogurt is not paleo but I sometimes eat it anyway.

Lunch;
Salad 250-350¥
Meat/chicken/fish: 200-300¥

snacks;
Macadamia Nuts-100¥
Dried fruits-100¥
85%cacao bitter dark chocolate-150¥

So about 1000-1500¥ a day. These are just rough estimations based on what I might eat at each meal. It varies, plus I buy in bulk as much as possible. Also, with the paleo 'lifestyle' there is the idea that humans didn't evolve though orderly eating times and go through periods of fasting and feasting. Sometimes I don't eat cause I don't have time or I just don't want to, I don't need to eat out of habit or because it is 'time to eat'. Sometimes I get hungry, but it goes away and I feel fine after 10 minutes, or I might snack on some nuts. Sometimes I'm crazy fucking hungry and can not stop eating all day. At times like these I don't worry about what I eat and just go for it. Or I might go to a 'yakiniku nomitabehoudai'. This means a barbecue meat restaurant where I pay a fixed price to eat and drink as much as I want for a fixed amount of time. Usually 90minutes for around 3000¥ at a real cheap place. I'll go with cool guys and hot girls and we will all get trashed. Great times that you can't put a price on.

Generally eating out I can expect to pay between 2000-4000¥ at most places. That's if I don't drink too much and other dudes don't say some shit like, "OK, my last train is soon, I gotta go early. I'll just leave my money here." Then they drop 2000¥ but they drank the fucking house down and skipped out on paying their full share.

Side action

Even when things are perfect in a relationship, both members still think about what it would be like to have a fling outside the relationship, even if they don't fully recognize that they want to. Even if it's unconscious, there is still a small amount of desire. This is something I believe.

When I talk about this with Japanese girls they get shocked and say that it's not true. Then after some time they eventually admit they they have thought about it. Then 2/3 times they will say that if their BF is too busy to meet them they end up finding another boyfriend (or two). But they don't like doing that because they can't introduce him to the friends and family. These women are not 'slutty' in their mind or in the conventional sense because they won't have a one night stand, it has to be a meaningful relationship, even though it is based on lies.

I have been that other guy on occasions. The guy who the girl is cheating with her BF/husband on. Not only in Japan but other countries also.

The first time it happened I remember being shocked and hurt, angry until I was dizzy. I remember making bold claims to myself that I would steal the girl and make her my own. I remember pacing my room back and forth, anxious and unknowing what to do, thinking that I had to hold onto this emotion and not push it back. I didn't want it to resurface at some weird time, just hold it until it passes. I blamed myself, then I blamed the girl, then I blamed the other guy. Then I wondered who was with her first and who did she really belong to? The youth, the naivety. Such a blissful ignorance I had been living in. As they would say in Japan, まだ甘い。

I ended up exhausted from the emotion and went to bed. I woke up the next day feeling great. I realized that I didn't own anyone and she didn't belong to me, and that of course she was free to do whatever. They say the best revenge is to live a successful life- so that weekend I found the hottest girl that I worked with (she was hot!), and I hooked up with her. I wanted the news to travel. I wanted to the first girl to find out about it and become jealous. I wanted her to hurt. Such pettiness. Such a weak way to live out my life. The funny thing was, the new girl had a boyfriend too.

Since then it's happened numerous times. I guess the experience left a mark, because from that first time I reflected on what would prevent a girl from leaving me. I thought that the best way to do this was to be the best lover, the best guy in bed. I have read so many books on the topic, experimented with so many different ideas, and learned to do crazy things that are just beyond most people's understanding of what good sex can be. I still I feel I have a lot to learn, but these days I do it through a genuine interest in the topic, not through a fear that I'm not good enough.

Even still, with the amazing sex box ticked off, I still feel that people want some sort of side action to accompany their long and strong bond with their loved one. This researcher supports the idea. It's a video lecture that goes for about 20 minutes. Interesting if your into physiology/love/sex. Something she said that stood out to me was, "Humans are created for reproducing, not happiness. We make our own happiness with that." or something of the like. It's near the end. Check it out- she has a lot of interesting things to say about sexuality.

Recently I want side action. I have basically turned down all the girls that have been coming my way since I haven't really wanted to push myself to go after them. I also started to think about easier alternatives. I've been looking at prostitution websites. I've slept with hookers before (see Thailand posts from a year ago) so it wouldn't be anything new. I looked at the prices, I looked at the girls. The girls looked good, but really, couldn't I just do this for free?

Upon a whim, I left my apartment, walked into the street, started talking to girls and eventually picked up a cute 22 year old nutritionist with a seriously tight body and hot boots at the convenience store nearby.

We had dinner the other night.

She was charming in her pleasant relaxed confidence and her eyes looked at me playfully while her composure was calm. We talked about nothing of particular interest.

She wants to meet again...

I do too.

I wonder if she has a boyfriend...

I ate whale meat

I had a small piece of whale meat the other week at kushi katsu restaurant. Japan catches whale for 'research' purposes and sells it in various restaurants. It's a very political and emotional topic for everyone involved. Since I'm neither political or emotional I ate the whale, thought it was shit and vowed to never pay for a shit tasting piece of meat like that again. Serious. It was like eating steak, but dirty, fishy and gross.

Thinking about Japan culture I was reminded of this video. It could be either funny or confusing.

Question: What is your advice for American men who want to move to Japan but have no idea what's the best way of going about it?

I'm kinda trying to go for a bit of a theme on this blog. Giving Americans practical living advice is not really part of that theme, but I'll give it a shot.

Step 1. American food culture is whack. You guys seem to be eating average tasting food that is loaded with calories and little nutritional value. Plus the average portion size is too big. Realize that by living there surrounded by obese people is going to influence you. If you aren't already, you will probably end up, obese, diabetic and gross looking with a high risk of heart disease. If you get married, *it's a fact you're going to have fat kids and die well before your wife and she is going to use all your savings and hard work plus the built up life insurance from over the years to live a lackadaisical life hassling your kids to hang out with her. Bail out while you can.
*Facts based upon author's wild imagination.

Step 2. Sell all your shit. If you can't sell it, give it away. If you can't give it away, throw it away. All you really need is your wits and an ipod loaded with your favorite beats- they will keep you company on the long lonely nights away from western civilization. If you are a big dude you might wanna bring some clothes. If you aren't, get new clothes here.

Step 3. Buy a one way ticket. You might find that Japan is not your thing and want to go home. By all means you should, just don't do it directly. Stop off at some other countries in Asia. See how the rest of the world lives. It will build your character and make you worldly. Then when you do go back to fatsville you can jump into conversations with strangers at the bar by saying, "That reminds me of the time I was in Cambodia. Well, you see, I had missed the local camel back to the camp and I only had two live chickens with me to last until the dawn." Watch their eyes glaze over because most people don't care about life outside their own country. That's when family comes in handy.

Step 4. You will need to get accustomed to life in Japan- find a local girl to help you with this. According to another American reader of my blog who made comments, this is easy. He didn't outline any specifics, but I recommend going to an international party. There you will find many girls who have done home stays in foreign countries and want to maintain their English skills without having to pay for classes. The chances of them being hot is VERY low, but most guys will be stoked that skinny girls are talking to them without being bitchy so it doesn't matter. Just be nice and they will swoon. Then when she shows you around town and your natural reaction is to complain about how things are different to back home, don't do this! When I was a high school student I worked at a supermarket and a fat American women complained about my country's currency and wanted me to agree with her, "It's strange money, isn't it. Don't you think it's strange?" To my simple teenage brain, money was money, and Americans were fat, ignorant and egotistical, walking through life just waiting to judge everyone and everything, acting too serious while solving crime cases using forensic technology and either getting lost or trying to survive on islands without getting eliminated by the tribe.

It wasn't until I came to Japan that I realized that there are some cool ones out there. Hopefully you will be cool and recognize that strange equals different and different equals variety. Variety is the spice of life. If you need to complain, do it with other foreign people or use a blog to vent. Try to do it in a fun, creative way so that others can laugh at your misery. Bottom line is that no one likes their culture insulted by people who aren't of that culture. See? I just did it you. ^o^

Step 5. If someone insults your culture, don't bite back. Just laugh it off and be cool. They will like you when they realize that they are being insulting bitches and you are cool.

Step 6. When eating ramen, slurp the noodles and make a loud noise. This will help you fit in.

Step 7. When ordering draft beer, expect that the head is going to be deep and foamy. You should shout, "KAMPAI!" and clink glasses with people around you to make friends. After this you should take a large manly gulp and carelessly wipe the excess beer foam from your mouth with the back of your hand and exhale out a sigh of relief for finishing another hard day of work. Don't be selective in who you talk to. Just talk to anyone. You will find that most people will be shocked at talking to a stranger, let alone a foreign one, but it will make their day if you give them a smile.

Step 8. If you get into shit, don't make a fuss and try to argue your way out of it. You are only digging yourself deeper and the language barrier will work against you. "We understand that there is problem and you are involved. So. You are responsible. Why you don't apologize? huh? You don't do nothing wrong? I don't understand. We police are here. You must have done something wrong."

Accept responsibility and say sorry, even if you think you did nothing wrong. You don't want to end up in court, there is like a 99% conviction rate. They don't have juries here. The Japanese way is to give a fake apology. Then you can blame your lack of understanding the culture and they will usually be satisfied with that and let you off. After things have cooled off they might even be really friendly and try to bust out some English on you. One of my girlfriend's childhood friends is a cop and he is a funny mofo. He was talking to me about going to China to fuck hookers and invited me to go with him, in front of my GF. Hilarious.


I think that's about all you need to survive and thrive.