I have a crush on a 66yo black woman

There she is on the right back in her hey day. Look at that puffed up hair and those straight white teeth. I think her lazy eye even makes her more appealing somehow. Maybe it's just her smooth voice, I'm not sure, but I don't care. Diana is a goddess. I'm also loving UK woman, Alison. You better believe that her black cherry album has the sexiest tracks ever. I bought a CD of hers way back but it had some bullshit protective software that stopped me from putting it on my computer. Gonna see if I can download it now... Check out this song and tell me it doesn't just make you want to get it on. Wouldn't think twice about this girl either. She's fresh and cool.

Today I had one of those 'almost' movie scene moments where I was walking through a busy street in a dark suit and a girl coming my direction caught my eye and we both just locked and stared at each other until we passed. She had on a long flowing dress and a loose fitting top. Her eyes had some green eyeliner around them also and I'm pretty sure she was wearing green contacts. When I did the look back, she was looking back at me also. I had that crazy heart flutter thing going on and I just wanted to run after her and tell her to marry me but I was so short on time on my way to get the train. I made excuses for myself in other words. It was probably worth being late to work for. I looked back one more time and saw her looking back at me and we were both just smiling and laughing. Would have been so much cooler to just chase her. God damn I love being a single man right now.

The chick at work suddenly reignited her crush on me. I can see that she has a crush on me, and other people at work comment on it also, but she can't do anything about it! She has my number and my email. She could call or write, but she CAN'T because she is a shy Japanese girl and can't make any moves. HAHHA Too bad!
I love it when girls do 逆ナン, it's like the coolest thing ever, but so rare.

I did some modeling the other day for the graphic designer that lives in my building. The shots got a bit edgy with some of my clothes coming off, and with her sexy business in front of me taking the shots, it took the most massive amount of restraint to not try getting it on. When I said goodbye I gave her a hug, which turned into and extended hug, which turned into us touching each other for a while. I nearly lost it... I really can't be having sex with a woman that lives two floors above me, and has commented that she has heard me having sex before. I will be caught out in a second!

I've been keeping contact with the HOT nail artist I met last week and it's been entirely Japanese. The vocab she is throwing at me is so beyond me, I feel like I'm in way above my head. I love that feeling! I haven't felt like this since my last girlfriend- whose family was 'the family' if you know what I mean. Where many guys come to Japan to get easier access to slim girls that they wouldn't have a chance with back home, I came here to be in above my head. Slim attractive girls were never anywhere near impossible back home, and a damn sight easier if you ask me! Try hooking up with a girl from the most incredibly passive race of women ever, in a language you can't speak well. That's quite a challenge.

Hangover from a one night stand

10am: Mystery girl I met last night gets up and says, "I have to go."
I grumble something about needing water and she comes back with a glass for me. My voice resembles the sounds of a creaky old drawbridge opening and from my mouth pours the stench of a mixed concoction of filthy cigarettes, beer, tequila, gin and various other alcoholic drinks. I try to raise my body to an upright position to get some of the thirst quenching water into my dehydrated system and notice my hands are shaking horribly. I suck it down and collapse. She says to me, "You probably don't even remember my name, do you?" Good morning to you too sweetheart. I make a guess and manage to get the first 2 syllables right. She seems happy enough at that, gives me her number and asks me for my number, and my name. Very sneaky. She disappears out my front door. I sleep.

1pm: I awake to my phone ringing. It's the girl I met on Saturday night. This girl is HOT and COOL. She is quite tall (for a J-girl) with really long hair and a tight body. With her high heels on I can look at her in the eyes without having to bend down and hunch. I allow the phone to ring because I'm in no state to speak. Sleep again.

4pm: Finally wake up and start to regather what happened last night. I'm still dizzy as fuck and I need coffee. I draw a bath and slowly it comes back to me. The drinking, the incessant drinking. All night. I drink too much.
I was in a bar and my friends have gone home and I have somehow merged with another group. I tell the girl next to me that I'm too drunk to get home alone and I ask her if she can take me. She is a shortish girl dressed tomboyish, not much makeup- possibly none. She starts making out with my neck. It feels good. I say "let's go."
We arrive at my place and I am quick to find out that her body has assorted tatoos in various places on her body. We fuck all night. One moment is burned into my memory when after she has been cumming and yelling something in a language I don't understand she looks at me and says, "So good, so good, sooo good! awww it's such a shame you are too drunk and won't remember any of this..." That's not entirely true. I remember that part.....

Turns out she is actually not Japanese and is Korean raised in Japan, living overseas, here on a holiday to visit some family. She leaves pretty soon.

6pm: I return the call of the sexy girl from Saturday night and we speak for a while. She is quite chatty and really easy to speak to even though I'm doing it all in Japanese. Hot.

6.30: I order pizza and start writing this blog entry.

Please act your age

I like Japanese women, don't get me wrong, but I wish they would grow the hell up sometimes.

'Jugs' as she will be known, invited me to hang out with her and her friend last weekend. She is a short woman who is slightly on the soft and chubby side with plus size breasts. I first met her at a bar designed for Foreign people to hang out. I rarely see cute girls in this type of place but my friend had spied a girl he liked so I did the gentlemanly thing and chatted with the cute girl's friend, later to be named as 'Jugs'. Thing is I was totally drunk and ended up getting her phone number, she contacted my friend asking why I wasn't contacting her so I made and effort to meet up and that's where I ended up last Saturday.

The problem in this story ladies and gentlemen, was, she said she was going to bring her friend. When you are a 30 year old, semi attractive chubby girl and you bring a friend with you on a date, you automatically lessen your chances of scoring the 27 year old foreign guy. So I brought a friend to even out the numbers. I show up and I see a less than semi attractive girl and her less than less semi attractive coworker in her late 30's possibly early 40's.

I pray that no one sees me.

I'm suited up from just finishing work and pretty beat and not really in the mood to entertain semi attractive women seeing as though I had been doing it all day, but for money. My friend came in with a ton of energy and charm as per usual. He really hit it off with the girls whilst I chilled. As it was, I never got the enthusiasm to be properly flirtatious, but my friend was and thus got the most attention. I enjoyed relaxed conversation with 'jugs' about simple topics. She doesn't seem to be a very deep person with any opinions on any topics, much like many of the Japanese women I speak to.

During the conversation I ask her if she would like to meet up the following evening for dinner and she readily agrees. The next morning I get a message with the usual flake excuse, "I'm sick." Fair enough. I didn't really care and didn't bother to reply seeing as though she was obviously not interested and from what I could gather was more interested in my friend. That night she gives me another mail saying that she was really sorry for being sick. I don't care. I tell her simply, "お大事に", which means, "take care."

I forget about her, meet a new chick (who will be known as 'nurse') the next night and go to a movie and dinner with her the night after that. Conversation is as usual as it is with J-girls, me asking questions, her giving 2 word answers that are basically identical to all other women of her age. She makes no attempt to create conversation, or even ask anything about me. My interest wanes and I have to struggle keep things interesting, not the way I want to feel on my day off.

'Jugs' is contacting my friend, and also suggests that I am angry at her. I'm not angry, I just don't care about you because you are a 30 year old who can't make conversation and are to afraid to be alone with a guy. I expect a 19 year old to be shy and cautious about going on a date with a guy and want to bring friends. Actually, no, I expect a 14 year old to do that. I was 16 when I was doing first dates alone with a girl.

She contacts me and asks me to meet with her and her other friend.

ummmm... NO!

Your insecurity is not my problem.

This week

Has seen no sex from me. Sunday night is the night of scheduling in Japan. If you own a mobile/cell/携帯 phone, expect it to get buzzing around 8pm. If it ain't, you need to get out of the house and meet some peeps or send some mails or make calls yourself.
The hostess scheduled me for a lunch at 12.30pm Monday. After her I wanted to schedule in the girls bar worker for 3pm. That was cool but I realized she started work at 6 and a long way from my place so I brushed it off cause I didn't want to travel 30 minutes to meet her for 1 hour. I hopped in the bath around 12am Sunday and meditated for 30 mins and when I got out I saw a msg from the arty chick. She wanted to stay at my place that night cause she missed the last train and was in the neighborhood. I told her to drop by but she had already called her Ma to pick her up and it turned out to be for the best cause she was sick with a cold and was coughing up a lung apparently.

I got a call from the hostess at 2am Sunday in tears because she had been dumped. I prefer it when women who have been sleeping with me be a bit more discreet about their existing relationships. One of the last things I want to hear is anything about their boyfriends/husbands. "My husband wouldn't be happy if he found out about this..." Yuck, make me wanna puke bitch.
Anywhoo... take the bad with the good and be happy that she wasn't married- she cried her eyes out on the phone with me at 2am and when I cheered her up she started crying again because I was so kind. Her plan was to cancel because she was too sad but she realized that she was OK to meet and she ended up buying me lunch. No sex. I was happy about that part. Should I just stop being her friend and just ignore her?

I planned to meet the arty chick the following night and cook for her but since she was still sick she couldn't make it so I invited the chick in my building. She has a thing for my friend so I told him about my plans and he was cool with whatever happened, be it me sexing her, or whatever (he is getting so laid right now he doesn't care). She came over and we basically ate food drank beer and talked about sex and taboo topics for 3 hours. It was really fun and we were laughing pretty hard. Great time. To be honest, I think we both wanted a little more when it came time to say goodnight.

Chick at work is trying to keep her distance, but she has lost her appeal. I feel no shame in chatting to her, charming her, then ignoring her when she tries to talk to me (I'm a bitch sometimes). It's driving her mad.
Went to a new bar tonight and picked up a staff. CUTE 19 year old. Long hair and straight white teeth.
Gonna meet the chick with the rack this Saturday, then the girls bar girl on Monday. I hope this new girl is free Sunday night!

Understanding Orgasm

I want to take some time to talk about something that is so important to me I would almost say it is beyond important. Men should know, and if they don't, should want to know more about orgasm. Specifically, woman's orgasm. Having a solid interest in orgasm has been my passion for the last couple of years and knowing what I do has given me so much of my self confidence and enjoyment with spending time with women. So let's start this series from the top with a definition. What is orgasm?

Orgasm is a peak in sexual arousal. It seems really simple and it is. Yet for some reason a lot of women don't experience it during intercourse. I can't remember the stats exactly but something like one third of women experience orgasms occasionally and one third never experience orgasm during intercourse. Why not? Simple. They aren't aroused during sex.
What are the reasons for this and how can we change them? To understand better, we need to both understand orgasm and women more.

A peak in sexual arousal doesn't necessarily mean a peak in physical stimulation. It's hard to really separate from that conception, but we need to. A peak in arousal comes from how far a person is turned on, more concisely, how far their mind finds what is happening as erotically stimulating. It is public knowledge that boys experience wet dreams as they enter puberty. In these dreams we experience what we think are sexually arousing scenes and then we wake up in the morning with sticky underwear after having an orgasm. Women also experience such erotic dreams yet it seems to be less common knowledge (to men at least). How is it that we can dream about sex and have a physical reaction? How is it possible to be asleep and have an orgasm with no physical stimulation whatsoever?

The answer is arousal.

The level of arousal you perceive will result in a physical reaction. When men begin to get aroused, penis' become harder pupils dilate etc. Women get wetter and they also dilate in preparation for penetration. This may happen before any physical contact has happened. While keeping this idea of arousal without touching in mind, think about the possibility of increasing that arousal -somehow- to an ultimate peak in arousal. This will result in orgasm. That's why we hear about guys who jizz their pants. I have never jizzed my pants, but if I had the mental control to jizz my pants, I would wear three layers of underwear and jizz my pants all day!

I believe erotic arousal is based on two main factors; The sexual partner and The situation.
The notion that most guys have about doing long foreplay will result in getting her aroused may be true, but what I find to be more important is whether or not she finds the guy arousing. He himself. Is he a man that inspires her to want to bring out her raw sexuality and open up to full sexual arousal? If he is, then he can just do anything and she will be aroused, waaaaaay before they get intimate. On top of that, is the situation in which they are interacting arousing? Is he at a BBQ with her getting all drunk and shooting his mouth off or is he in high spirits laughing and chatting with everyone and maybe even playing some sports? Wining and dining with boring conversation about work or fun flirtatious chat? In an airplane? All of which can be good and bad lead ups to sex, played out different ways.

Each person is aroused by different things, people and situations. Some things are very specific and very odd. For some guys, a threesome with 2 tall busty blonds would be great. For other guys the idea of this would be too intimidating and would thus prefer one small submissive asian girl. Personally I want both. In my time of talking to women about fetish and erotica I have found many, many different and random things that they find arousing. For some women the idea of a man they can marry is really arousing yet for others a foreign guy that they know they can't marry is much more arousing. For some women and men the very specific thought of going inside and outside a marriage is very arousing. Glasses may be hot, very well built football players may be, Sumo wrestlers for other girls. I once talked to a girl who's very specific turn on was men in their 50's that look plain and are overweight. She was a cute 19 year old at the height of her fetish! She passed this phase and broadened her horizons when she turned 21 though. Some women can be so specific and critical about what a guy can and can't do to be hot they don't realize they are really just limiting their ways for enjoying erotica.

"So, for a guy to really get her off, the man has to be her fantasy guy in her fantasy situation?" Not so fast sonny Jim! You don't have to be Superman saving Lois Lane from a falling airplane to make a girl hot enough to truly enjoy sex. Perhaps her ideal type of guy has XYZ quality, yet you are not this type of guy and don't have this quality. That puts you at a disadvantage to getting her off as easily as her ideal type, but fear not good friend! Every man has the potential to become a sexual object with the base qualities that most women find attractive just like our buddy Al Pacino. Trying to be her ideal is not the way to go in order to get her off. Pushing against your natural grain will make you feel uncomfortable and you will come across as stiff as a board. Women can sense this (sensitive creatures they are) and will simply interpret it as "creepy." Any person can be sexy via natural means, just like Al does. If you aren't tall, or good looking take a lesson from him. It is not his look that is sexy, it is his actions.

Speaking from my position, if I want to get hot western football cheerleader I should most likely be 10-20kgs heavier and act like a tough guy. I'm not a tough guy though, and women don't want that in me. I play to my strengths, being a chill musician type, and the women that find me appealing respond. This leaves me at a loss for who I can choose, but because I meet so many different women by being naturally sociable, I have invariably unlimited options and choose amongst them. This gives me the first step towards gaining easy arousal. Then I can just talk to her and she will be loving it.

Keep an eye out for more articles of this topic coming soon!

Egotist vs Narcissist

They say to be able to love someone else you must first be able to love yourself. If this is true, why is it that when I make love to myself, I have no energy left to love anyone else? I get kinda low, and I wanna eat cup ramen and have a snooze.

エゴイスト Is the Japanese word that reads 'Egoist' but in English means Egotist. ナルシスト reads as 'Narushisuto' and means Narcissistic person. They are what we call Japanese English. These are quite hot new words when describing people and personality types in Japan. Where I come from, we don't use the word Narcissist, we just say, 'vain.' I believe some self love is good, some is bad. What kind is good and why? Let's look at the details of Vanity first.

Yea, I'm pretty much as vain as they get. I have to be honest with myself because this is my blog. I guess I got it from a number of sources, mostly environmental. My mother, whom I was raised by was super vain. She used to give me compliments all the time though. She said to me, "You know, everyone says you are the splitting image of me. And everyone says I'm good looking so that must mean you are good looking too."
In other words she just praised herself and told me I look like a women in her 50's. Thanks... I guess... She taught me to always have pride in the way I look, then followed that up by saying, "Now go have a shower and wash your hair! It's a greasy mess!"

I also got a lot of influence from the visual importance of the beach culture of my hometown. Everyone was tanning or surfing or working out. I was doing all of them. I spent a ton of time at the gym after school. My high school friends were the same too. I was naturally too lean to ever get the really big football player look, but that's OK. I also played in a band as a lead singer and by spending so much time watching the singers I admired, I probably picked up some of their vain characteristics.

Really, I like being vain, and I like other people who are vain. Show me a man with zero interest in his appearance and I can almost guarantee he doesn't have a hot girlfriend. Vain guys are often much more attuned to going after girls the way I am too. So it's pleasant to be around guys like this who are happy when you talk to girls as opposed to jealous.

Good points of being Narcissistic
*I naturally bond with good looking girls because I have a lot to talk about with them, such as clothes, fashion, and err.... clothes....
*People compliment my appearance regularly. Just yesterday I was sitting in a train with two nice looking young girls fawning over my appearance at the top of their voices. This ended up getting pretty awkward though because they were just too young and bimbo.
*I can enjoy objectively checking out other guys with girls. This doesn't mean feeling sexual towards the guy, it simply means I can look at his fashion style and critically analyze it with an opinion. I might even take some pointers.
*I can laugh at myself quite readily and don't take any of my vain ways too seriously. I even blend it in to make my own sense of humor.
*Whenever I feel down I pull out my pocket mirror, take a glance at my reflection and my sorrows turn into sunshine.
**That last one was so completely a joke. If you didn't get it you are too slow.

Bad points of being Narcissistic.
*It can take a while to dry my hair sometimes. If I don't dry it properly and spend zero effort styling it, women start commenting in a bad way.
*I can't do contact sports because I feel that I might damage the money maker. My face! Half joke half true. On the contrary to this, I will play sports such as mountain biking and snowboarding and put myself in potentially breakneck situations. What's with that?
*I'm a bit of an airhead. This isn't a problem when I'm with Japanese women because it makes them think I'm cute and they can relax, but sometimes it's just embarrassing. The other night a girl was at my place and I decided to make some space on the couch for her to sit. I picked up what I thought was her jacket and started to hang it up and noticed it looked a lot like my jacket. I said, "Wow! I have a jacket just like this!" She told me that it was indeed my jacket and that I was a dumb ass because it was on my couch in my apartment..... I don't know where this airheadedness comes from but I think it must be some sort of gene that is linked with being blond. I can fucken study though. I graduated medical science and in a lot of ways I'm quite a geek. It's just when I'm with people this happens.

Now I'm going to look at the other half of the self inflated spectrum; Egotistical people. These people think they, themselves are great. They put themselves and their opinion above everyone else as being the ideal. I have no idea why they feel the need to think this way. It's not really based on their appearance. I on the other hand don't care if I am right or wrong, as long as I look good, I'm happy.

My brother is the prime example of an Egoist. He has to be right all the time. Even if you concede to let him be right he will get pissed cause you are just fake agreeing. He never says sorry for his belligerent selfish ways and has no problem demanding the world from me and giving nothing in return. He has mistaken the male ideal of having strength as being a cold in-compassionate person. For him, to be strong is to stand your ground and be stubborn about it at all costs and show no sign of backing off. To me, not accepting fault is weakness because it doesn't allow you to develop.

The addition of Egoist to Narcissist is a lethal combination that my other brother has. I will admit, than when I get drunk, I get a bit arrogant. When I wake up the next day and remember what I said the night before I feel pretty ashamed and promise to never speak when I am drunk again. This promise lasts as long as 12 hours, but it's something I'm trying to overcome. My other brother however is pure hell to be around when he is drunk- much, much worse than me. He has one topic of conversation; Himself. He provokes arguments to reconfirm he is the most correct and it's all based on meaningless bullshit that no one cares about anyway. When he is sober he is actually a really smart, intuitive, genuinely good looking guy that is pretty easy to have a laugh with. He is a successful business guy at a young age and I guess that is why he is married to a hot chick who is also like minded. Good for them. Just leave the ego out of it and don't argue for sport.

Egoist women I categorize as self important women. I really get turned off by self important women. Perhaps this is another reason why I like Japanese girls. Self important women aren't egotistical like a man is, they are just the center of their own universe and care about nothing outside it. Enjoying myself with them is difficult, possibly because I'm too impatient to bother dealing with their ego fits and tantrums along with their 5 second attention span. I may change and one day learn to love it, but now just give me an easygoing pretty girl and I will be happy.

The people who are truly beautiful understand that their looks are only one part of themselves. The rest is separate. Just chill out and let it be baby.

Therefore I conclude that taking pride in ones appearance is a good thing but taking it too far and being insecure and egotistical about it is weird and not cool.

Denied

The girl I really liked from work who also really liked me decided that she didn't like me anymore. In Japan, when a youngish good looking girl really likes a guy, she gets really shy and tries to stay away from him. To be successful at dating this type of girl one must approach it like taming a rabbit; do not get too close and make no sudden movements. Try to stay in each others presence for a while, in a group is best, using alcohol to make up for the insecurity and lack of ability to make conversation because your locked up society gave you no chance to develop your own inter-personal skills.

I guess I made a sudden movement and freaked her out.

I asked her if she was free to see the movie she wanted to see with me and then she said she wanted to go drinking with me instead, only with other coworkers also. Everyone together kind of thing. I was initially a bit let down that she didn't want to just hang out with me alone, and I guess that look showed on my face for a split second or two. I said nothing but soon regathered my wits and encouraged her to come drinking. Perhaps she caught my displeased vibe and decided that I was not her type after all. There is absolutely nothing else that could have given her any other impression of me apart from good.

For a western guy It seems really strange that if I could be having a really natural friendly relationship with a person at work and then when she develops a crush on me and told me so, I decide to take her up on it but she gets shy and doesn't want to deal with the pressure of being alone with me. This would be strange, but it's not. This is Japan. One small facial expression can destroy a professional or intimate relationship. It's important to keep a poker face and not show your feelings. If you show your emotions that is seen as acting immature, weak and that is a representation of your character. Character flaws cannot be forgiven so we make no time for these people. I learned this the fun way.

When I first got here I was trying to speak Japanese as much as possible and of course I tried to speak to one of the staff at the school where I worked. She was an older married lady, very nice and friendly. One morning I said the phrase that we say in English as, "What's new?" but it's not something they say in Japanese. She looked at me like I was on drugs and told me that I was weird. I got a little taken back by the comment and the embarrassment and anger showed on my face. From the look that I gave her she from then on decided to hate me forever. Weeks passed and she never replied to me when I said hello. I continued to be polite, completely unaware of the reasons for her snubbing me. Many months later I heard on the grapevine that she was telling other people how she hated me, and how my Japanese was terrible and that I should learn properly or just give up. Other people around the office had taken similar stances with her, so I guess she had been talking. I thought that was quite a lot of hate to be harboring for a guy for seemingly no reason, but it had all come back to that one pissed off glare that I gave her that day.

For myself, the longer I am sitting around being angry, the less time I am enjoying myself. I like to get over bad feelings of resentment as soon as I possibly can so I can move forward and enjoy my life. To get over those ill feelings I think it's good to get them off my chest. That sad women that spent her time hating on me probably never had the outlet to get anything off her chest. She probably had no one to talk to or listen to her. Either that or she was just a petty bitter bitch. The differences between our cultures is that when I get pissed off I say something and deal with it then get over it rather than spectate and quietly judge and never forgive or forget. It's a cultural thing.

Coming back to my initial point of this whole thing, I went out on a limb to get a girl who had taken interest in me and had drawn my interest in her. I fucked it up by looking at her in the wrong way and now she'd rather lie about not having time to meet me. I've now fucked up the atmosphere at work and probably a chunk of my salary too. The amount of times I have been brushed off to the side by women by a snap emotional decision makes me very insensitive towards feeling bad about fucking them and being non committal while I sleep around.
If I had slept with this girl only once, I would have most likely stopped all contact with the other girls and focused all my libido on pleasing her. She is such an angel, it sux that I'm now going to have to stop talking to her.

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*The hostess wants to meet me next Monday. I haven't seen her since December where she bought me dinner got me drunk and slept with me. We are meeting for coffee. I really don't want to sleep with her again because I want to move on, but she is quite good looking and can be persuasive. Sex with her is bad though. I feel used after I sleep with her.
*I was fading off the Arty Bi lingual girl. But after today I think I want to see her again.
*Chick with a great rack wants to meet up soon.
*Done my best to forget girl in my building.
*Girls bar worker I street nampa'd last week is replying sporadically and slowly to my mails.
*Got taken out to dinner by an old guy and after played simulation golf while drinking and chatting with hot bar chicks. COOL AS! After that had my first experience at a snack bar. It sucked! It was like I was at work talking to women about nothing, except in Japanese not English. But the simulation golf and the food I ate before that kicked ass. I was a bit worried about whether or not I could be polite enough in Japanese to talk to him without offending him, but I think I got through OK and left a good impression.
*My new years resolution to drink only 6 beers a week died a quick death. This week I have gone out drinking every night, except tonight.

Reasons why I'm not a PUA

I have a link on Nubreed nampa and a reference on another blog as being a pick up artist. Let the truth be known that I have read a lot of the PUA material out there and I really find it interesting but the persona of a PUA is not something I at all identify with. I lack the skills for one and I have slept with hookers for another.

Basically I'm like any other 20 something year old guy that wants to travel the world and have a fun experience. I just happened to land in Japan and have been here for a few years now. Along with that, I have dated girls and slept around a fair bit too. The thing is I find myself most satisfied when I am enjoying myself comfortably with a girl I know well and who also knows me. This is difficult to get when you are an 'outsider' so you have to learn a lot about culture differences and etiquette etc.

I'm not intent on getting new girls because for me it is tiresome, lonely and the quality of sex doesn't compare. Along with that girls I am already sleeping with are more than ready to spend time with me and I don't have to make any effort at all enticing them to meet me. Girls I have just met aren't always that keen so I have to make a lot of effort. Being called a playboy by girls is something I find a little rude.

Really, I want to be able to walk the streets with a girl without looking over my shoulder thinking that I am going to be caught out for cheating.
Having said that, I find absolutely nothing wrong with sleeping around until I find a girl I want to walk the streets with. The other night I picked up a really cute girls bar worker when I did some street nampa. It's funny how better looking girls are so much easier to talk to and less attractive girls get suspicious. I'm guessing this might not work out in the long run because our schedules don't really match, but it could be fun for a short time....

One more reason to love Japan

Eating Ramen at 1am on a Monday night after hanging with a couple of friends at a bar drinking a few beers and chatting with nice girls in a foreign language. Gonna miss this one day...