The biggest cockblock between me hooking up with the girls I want to hook up with, is their own self image.Being a foreigner is a taboo. Having sex with one is an even bigger taboo. I think that the majority of Japanese women, despite what most people might think, don't want to have a self image that they are inter-racial sluts, sleeping with foreign men. They don't want to deal with telling their family and friends that their boyfriend is not Japanese. They don't want to deal with people giving them a hard time for doing something reckless like giving into a fantastical desire.
Indeed there are some girls who accept their preference, or don't even have a preference but accept inter racial relationships, but the majority of women I meet, from Japan and elsewhere, can not fathom the idea that my last girlfriend was Japanese
This is hard for many people to realize from the outside. The amount of xenophobia that is shoved in my face everyday in this country is something I'm almost completely immune to, but reminded of at times.
really? i didn't think guys got that too much... i mean, the other way around is super common... i dunno how many guys have chickened out of relationships with me for similar reasons... but i didn't know j-girls did it too... interesting...
ReplyDeleteIt would be hard to notice this. Especially on my blog cause I only ever talk about the kinky, interesting, funny or weird stuff. Being denied and having girls say to my face that they hate foreigners is so commonplace that it hardly constitutes writing about. So I haven't done it. I do think I have said on this blog that picking up hot white chicks is much easier for me than picking up hot Japanese chicks.
ReplyDeleteSo statistically speaking, for about every chick that I actually sleep with, there are many many more that have talked to me, said that I am hot to my face, agreed to meet me again and then not replied to my messages. OR they dated me once or slept with me once and never replied to me again.
It is a bizarrely paradoxical thing. So many jgirls think we`re hot and they assume they we can just snap our fingers and get any girl we want - yet they never imagine it would be THEM, and it is totally outside of their whole concept of reality to be with us.
ReplyDeleteUltimately that`s what meeting girls in Japan is about - either finding the girls who already think of us as being inside their world and going for those ones, or finding a way to expand the horizons of the girls who don`t. For the hot hot girls it`s fucking hard because for them it`s an issue of social pressure. What is the club promoter jguy going to say if he sees her with a gaijin guy? He`ll talk smack and make her feel embarrassed about it, that`s for SURE. For the less hot girls who actually see us as "out of their league", that can be just as hard. It`s weird because often those girls are cute and we see them as good enough for us, but they don`t see themselves that way so the thought of dating us is daunting.
We would act the same if a girl so hot that we could not even conceptualize dating her approached us. We`d get freaked out, nervous, and probably run away like bitches rather than throw our equilibrium way off. It`s the same thing, but it would probably take us an incredibly hot high status girl to make us feel like that. But so many jgirls will act like that when you`re just a regular kakko-ii gaijin.
Weird shit.
Whoa! A Bombastic comment. I wasn't expecting that. I see you got your blog back up with a new angle. Cool! Expect haters to hate! LOlz.
ReplyDeleteIt's funny how you managed to summarize everything I was thinking so neatly.
If I put this back in my shoes, I remember being made to feel weird when I was back home and having interest in black and Asian chicks- even though I was a skinny white boy. I definitely felt uncomfortable with inter-racial dating. I guess I got over that when I grew up and stopped letting chumps govern my choices with their prejudice.
We can't expect the impressionable female youth of Japan to have as much fortitude. I guess the key is to get them when they are away from the prying eyes of others.
"I guess I got over that when I grew up and stopped letting chumps govern my choices with their prejudice.
ReplyDeleteWe can't expect the impressionable female youth of Japan to have as much fortitude."
Yeah, that`s the definition of a chode, right? It`s not that someone sucks with girls, it`s that they act more based on social conditioning than their own values and preferences. The whole world is chode for the most part. I don`t expect the average girl to rise above social conditioning. The only real way they`ll do that is if everybody else does it, so you really need to have value on their scene. Like be the gaijin who organizes niche events or whatever. I can`t be bothered with it at the moment, but maybe DG will. Or yeah, get them while they`re alone and feel no social pressure, which is what Nubreed`s good at.
Fuck yeah, a new blog with better content. I wanted to make some kind of pickup site again, but there are a zillion of them. And I wanted to make a better IM site, but there are a zillion of them. Then I realized how many people envy my lifestyle and thought fuck it, I`ll make a site about both. Plus I`m tired of people I barely know asking me endless IM questions and not even buying me a drink. A dude we know asked me to meet up and talk IM over coffee and didn`t even buy me the coffee. lol. homos. Now I can just be like "Read the site". I haven`t really launched it yet, just trying to get the core content up first, then I can maintain it as a blog.
Yeah, it would be interesting to read about a day in the life of Bomb. I'd like to check out the IM stuff too. But I'm pretty into this masters degree to fill my head with computer jargon on the side. This site has made me almost 500 yen in the time its been up! woot!
ReplyDeleteBTW. Summer is coming up. Beach missions Biatch!